Gowns to the Grocery Store

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Do you know where I've seen people wear their pajamas? The grocery store, the dentist office, the doctor's office, to meet with professors, the bank, the bar, an office Christmas party...

Come to think of it, I'm not sure anywhere has escaped the modern entitlement of pajamas in public, and when it's not pajamas, there is sure to be someone in "athleisure" wear. This is not a condemnation of these choices, but a response to the domino effect that hyper casual public dressing causes to the rest of us.

ALL of my clients grapple with this reality. For some reason, we are afraid to look too formal, too out of place, too put together, oo stylish in a world where no one seems afraid to look too casual. Many of my same clients who are nervous in wanting to blend in with the casual crowds also bemoan the lack of opportunity to dress up. I feel you, girl, but I also challenge you- I challenge us all to take every day as that opportunity.

I don't want you to be uncomfortable, but to feel free to dress how YOU want to. Don't let the pajama wearers and pretend yogis set the standard for you. See their choices as opening up the stage for anything goes. They can choose to wear a cartoon animal onesie to the grocery store, and you can wear a gown. If asked what you've dressed up for, answer "LIFE, darling" and toss your wrap over your shoulder as you swish away.

Stepping up your image might create discomfort the first time or two, but after a week or so you will see yourself settling in. This is a better domino effect, eh? Dressing to impress yourself helps to carve out a more comfortable space for others to do similarly. Looking great invites the many women who feel chained to Pajama Land to dress their dreams instead of resignation.

With the advent stretch to all fabrics, dressed up can be just as comfortable as dressed down. However you dress, you are making a statement. Are you declaring that you'd rather not think about the impact of your appearance? That you'd rather go along with the crowd than share your own tastes? Or are you declaring that you will wear what you like for this precious short life that we have to express ourselves?

Push yourself from where you're at. If that means wearing funky shoes with jeggings and a t-shirt, get it, love! If that means wearing a gown to the grocery store, I will hi-five you in my colorful suit and 5" heels as we pass.

In the comments please share where the strangest place is that you've seen someone wearing hyper-casual, and/or what you could do to push your own boundaries in the direction you wish you could go.

Kristina: The Pouncing Courier, an Angel, Spirited Linear, Client Example

Meet Kristina, a lovely Angel client who was looking for her fantasy type and a bit of an update to her work wardrobe. The primary goal was to find a look that was both professional and vibrant with her personality. The secondary goal was for it to be a look she could easily transition into wearing out for drinks with friends.


She had prior color analyses with other analysts that she was happy with,  and I was happy to incorporate. Her light rainbow palettes were a natural fit with Angel. To the right is what I selected as her best. Springy, light, and colorful. 

On the left is a collage of the personal shopping I did for her, in her sizes and with her budget. For Kristina we needed a versatile base piece that could work in a professional setting, and loads of great accessories.

When you're working with more than two colors, it's great when you have a piece that can bring in the other colors. The scarf has a light green and teal (echo the dress and earrings), the earrings have mint and gold (echo the scarf and purse), and the brooch has green, pink, and gold. Kristina is wearing a very cute alternate brooch below that ties in the pink of the coat and belt.

You can see the influence of her Spirited Linear (Base 5) type most in the scale of her prints, the relatively frenetic details, the mix of shapes, as well as the varied vertical, horizontal, and diagonal directions in her lines. Using Base 5 and Fantastical Beauty together reaches for the personalized best intersection of both approaches.

If you have the Angel guide, please share all of the beautiful Angel aspects you see in the comment section. There are three or four that especially jump out... 

Perfectly professional and full of personality, she is ready for a day of both work and play. 

I'm biased, but I just love her finished looks! 

In addition to volunteering to be part of this blog post, Kristina also requested that her pinboard be made public. I started it for her during our private services work, and she has done an absolutely smashing job taking it from there. I highly recommend looking through it to see hair, pant, and other recommendations, as well as to take in more of her fantastical, personal style story.

I leave you with Kristina's own kind words:

Working with Kati was truly enjoyable. The analysis gave me both 1) personalized recommendations of shapes, fabrics, contrast levels; all wrapped with 2) Kati's unique view, imagination (that is an essential part of the B5/FB system) and talent for creating cohesive outfits with the right level of visual interest and movement. I especially recommend online shopping/getting a complete outfit put together by Kati. It helped me realize that a list of personalized recommendations is never rigid, there's a lot of room to play/borrow/get inspired, and that the Angel's balance can actually be expressed as oscillation/juxtaposition.